It is February fourteen and most people are all mushy and lovie dovie! So I felt compelled to blog about LOVE. To me love is a word we throw about in a reckless fashion and it sticks to every thing like germs on snotty noised kids. Here in the United States we LOVE everything to the point Hallmark and FTD florist created a holiday to celebrate this over used, misunderstood, and poorly defined emotion. So I will attempt to define what love means to me and tell you what I look for in love.
Growing up I loved eating fried bologna. I really enjoyed bologna in my scrambled eggs. To a kid life revolves around cartoons and food. Life as an adult is not as simple. But it should be. While working at Twin Lakes and living with the girls of Akimbo cabin I learned a great phrase to define life simplicity. All one needs in life is “bologna and love!” This phrase came from Lindsey Sistrunk Hardy, a firey red head who fortunately was in charge of the afternoon snacks and organizing the dinning hall at Twin Lakes. She had personal experience in both food and love. At the time she was dating the man who would later become her husband. From my observation they were very much in love.
Life should be simple. All you need is bologna and love! When I ate bologna life was simple. I have grown out of my appreciation for bologna, but it is a cheap and fast way to eat. We see all over the world people starving to death. Even if they had love they don’t have food in their belly. They are not happy and life is not simple to them. You have to have food. It doesn’t have to be expensive caviar, prime rib, or a happy meal from McDonald’s. It just needs to keep you healthy and your belly full and happy.
Love should be just this simple, but love is far from simple or is it? I think love is very simple but the process of finding someone to love and who loves you back is the complicated thing. Being married is complicated, but loving the person you married should not be complicated. There have been times I have wanted to strap my husband to a Saturn V rocket and launch him directly to the moon. Since the Saturn V rocket is no longer in production I will have to find a way to live in harmony with the man I love. Love is never the issue, most of the time it just gets in the way.
Life and love is complicated because we have to live along side people. People are flawed, messed up critters. We are messed up in the fact that we want more than we need. We want a life more complex than just bologna and love. We want to live in giant houses, drive monster trucks, and fly to exotic destinations. We want to hurt the people we care about to get more stuff and do more things. We find people we say we love and our own human nature screws things up and leads to hurting them. We all know the saying, “we hurt the people we love most.” We should be ashamed of our selfishness to accept this as a reason for hurting others. Yes, we all make mistakes, but we should take the blame, say we are sorry, and make good with the people we love.
I really like the definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” When I read that passage I am positive that love can not be accomplished without a lot of help from God. I don’t know many humans that can live out their lives loving someone as this verse describes love. Most often love is just what this passages says it shouldn’t be: envious, boastful, prideful, rude, self-seeking, and angry. God is the inventor of love. I learned a long time ago love only comes from God.
We should just live simple. Allow God to provide for us in all things and find someone to love. Love them as God loves us. Anyone care for some bologna?